Day 561 Please save me Robin Williams

13 08 2014

I guess you could say I did have mental illness and a fellow struggler and one of my favorite actors of all time died yesterday by taking his life. Called suicide. The most grossly understood of all diseases and draws more reaction and so-called “experts” when it happens. I never get the request to blog but today I was sent a request and some information about suicide so here I go trying to give my thoughts on it. Robin Williams had everything that society says you need to have to have a good life, but it didn’t matter. WE ARE ALL THE SAME no matter what you want to think. Robin Williams is proof that you have it but you can’t buy your way out of a disease. He made millions of people laugh, cry, at peace and think they were okay. Today we sit here and he couldn’t find any of those things for himself.  Nanu Nanu

3.5 years ago I was ready to take my life. Nothing made sense and the pain pf my life was too much. I knew no other way. Sure it was selfish to think that way but when your there your think you’re doing people a favor. How dare someone who has never struggled with it beat down someone who has. You do many selfish things as well but you do them out of your own selfish ways not because you think you’re doing people a favor. Suicide is not a choice you make, but rather a choice that happens onto when your pain was greater than your ability to cope. I was lucky and I have no idea why or what caused me not to do the act, but I’m thankful today I didn’t. I can still feel that day of pain and everything leading up to it and I bet there is not one of you that would want to take that from me because its too much!

Suicide is not a weak decision. It is a decision that takes an incredible amount of strength to make, actually. Someone isn’t weak if they end their life. They are desperate. There is a difference. It’s okay to feel angry at the person for dying. It’s okay to question, to rail against the forces that caused this. But it isn’t weakness. Mental illness isn’t weakness. It’s a disease, a pervasive, sometimes awful disease. The person doesn’t deserve anger and skepticism forever. They deserve compassion. Their family deserves compassion.

Ending a life is incredibly, incredibly tragic. It represents a lost battle with mental illness. In that, it is no different from cancer, or diabetes, or a heart attack. Where it is different is that suicide is a choice. Whether it is the right or wrong choice for that person is solely the business of that person who commits suicide. But for the family left behind, it is devastating.

Don’t rail against Robin Williams, or anyone else, for committing suicide (if indeed, that is the cause of his death). Instead, reach out. Let people know you’re there for them. Find a crisis line in your area to call if you are feeling desperate and like you want to do something you can’t take back. Support the family and friends left behind in the best way you can. Let the people you love know that you love them and that you are thinking about them. Let them know that they are not alone. (Not sure where these came from but it was sent to me to write about).

If you know of someone who is struggling and you do nothing its a hell of a burden to carry. Isolation is a killer and yes its devastating but don’t try to  understand their pain just know its real and do whatever you can to get them help.





Day 561 Please save me Robin Williams

12 08 2014

I guess you could say I did have mental illness and a fellow struggler and one of my favorite actors of all time died yesterday by taking his life. Called suicide. The most grossly understood of all diseases and draws more reaction and so-called “experts” when it happens. I never get the request to blog but today I was sent a request and some information about suicide so here I go trying to give my thoughts on it. Robin Williams had everything that society says you need to have to have a good life, but it didn’t matter. WE ARE ALL THE SAME no matter what you want to think. Robin Williams is proof that you have it but you can’t buy your way out of a disease. He made millions of people laugh, cry, at peace and think they were okay. Today we sit here and he couldn’t find any of those things for himself.  Nanu Nanu

3.5 years ago I was ready to take my life. Nothing made sense and the pain pf my life was too much. I knew no other way. Sure it was selfish to think that way but when your there your think you’re doing people a favor. How dare someone who has never struggled with it beat down someone who has. You do many selfish things as well but you do them out of your own selfish ways not because you think you’re doing people a favor. Suicide is not a choice you make, but rather a choice that happens onto when your pain was greater than your ability to cope. I was lucky and I have no idea why or what caused me not to do the act, but I’m thankful today I didn’t. I can still feel that day of pain and everything leading up to it and I bet there is not one of you that would want to take that from me because its too much!

Suicide is not a weak decision. It is a decision that takes an incredible amount of strength to make, actually. Someone isn’t weak if they end their life. They are desperate. There is a difference. It’s okay to feel angry at the person for dying. It’s okay to question, to rail against the forces that caused this. But it isn’t weakness. Mental illness isn’t weakness. It’s a disease, a pervasive, sometimes awful disease. The person doesn’t deserve anger and skepticism forever. They deserve compassion. Their family deserves compassion.

Ending a life is incredibly, incredibly tragic. It represents a lost battle with mental illness. In that, it is no different from cancer, or diabetes, or a heart attack. Where it is different is that suicide is a choice. Whether it is the right or wrong choice for that person is solely the business of that person who commits suicide. But for the family left behind, it is devastating.

Don’t rail against Robin Williams, or anyone else, for committing suicide (if indeed, that is the cause of his death). Instead, reach out. Let people know you’re there for them. Find a crisis line in your area to call if you are feeling desperate and like you want to do something you can’t take back. Support the family and friends left behind in the best way you can. Let the people you love know that you love them and that you are thinking about them. Let them know that they are not alone. (Not sure where these came from but it was sent to me to write about).

If you know of someone who is struggling and you do nothing its a hell of a burden to carry. Isolation is a killer and yes its devastating but don’t try to  understand their pain just know its real and do whatever you can to get them help.





Day 320 Time to be honest again like my beginning blogs

26 11 2013

Day 320 Time to be honest again like my beginning blogs.





Day 247 So you feel like crap

10 09 2013

I made my first meatloaf today and it was Paleo so its healthy and good for me. I will be eating in an hour so wish me luck if not I hope you at least enjoy this blog.

I know we all have those days and today happened to be one of them. I did learn something that I guess I should have known a long time ago. http://writingsofamrs.wordpress.com/  on Facebook and someone’s blog  I follow asked: What is your greatest weakness? Then it hit me and for the first time in my life it just came out. I believe in my fear! Not sure what in the heck I’m going to do with it but at least I know

 

This is not my work below it’s from Robert D Smith who wrote 20000 days and counting . I love his wit and honesty and today I need to hear his message. Please let me know your thoughts.

 

It is amazing to me that regardless of how I go to bed my hair is always messed up every morning. I go to bed with it looking good. I wake up with it looking bad.

What happened?

I’ve noticed my emotions work the same way. I go to bed happy, but sometimes I wake up sad.

Again—what happened?

Here’s the thing about feeling sad: Nobody does their best work when they’re sad. Actually, forget WORK—when you’re sad, sometimes it’s all you can do just to crawl out of bed.

You’re tired of the routine. Tired of feeling stuck. Tired of hearing “no.” Tired of getting another day older and feeling your dream slip further from your grasp.

I’ve been to that place where you go to bed crying and wake up vomiting. Since leaving, I’ve tried to visit as little as possible. But, as you know, it’s hard.

So what can you do about it?

The first thing you must believe is that you have 100% control over your emotions. It’s how you react to the emotion that counts, not the emotion itself. Emotions do not just happen; they are created. They are the product of all the ingredients that currently make up the still-baking cake that is your life.

And guess what? You can control those ingredients. This IS the really great news.

Every list of ingredients always has one that stands out above all others: the key ingredient. Without the key ingredient, the recipe is meaningless.

The key ingredient in any emotion is ACTION.

Act the way you want to feel. Remember what they always say about courage? It’s not the absence of fear—it’s just the willingness to act in spite of your fear.

If you need courage, act courageous. If you want to feel happy, smile. If you need more energy, act energetic. Do some jumping jacks. Dance like you’re on stage for Saturday night fever! Create how you want to be. It is within the power you’ve been given.

Yes, YOU have power.








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