Day 1121 Day 1119 The ghost I can’t catch

28 02 2016

Good evening from Durango Colorado.  After my mom passed away I didn’t take any time off so with two of my best buddies we are going to get away, snowboard, and enjoy the great outdoors. Nothing brings you back to what this life was created for than being in the great outdoors.

I’ve been in Counseling since September 2011 I’m so thankful I put my pride down and decided to make the life changing decision. It started so I could figure out why I wanted to take my life. From that moment on I learned about anger, worth, love, forgiveness, starting over, God, parenting. I could go on but mostly I learned to become a changed man. I thirsted for the knowledge, I couldn’t get enough, some of it was the worst feelings I have ever had. I wanted to quit, I wanted to run away, I wanted to give up, thankfully here I am.  I call this journey because of the peaks and valleys. I’ve never had a real even kill time since I started counseling. Then my mom dies in December and I knew I had to dig deeper in counseling and find out this emptiness I’ve had for about two years. With all the interceptive thoughts going along with my grief I kept asking myself why, why do you feel this way about yourself? Why can’t you get over this hill? Then this past Tuesday I counseling comes with only 10 minutes left in my session… Please don’t feel pity, or say something generic. I’m trying to be real to help me and maybe someone else!!

Brian I’ve been a failure at everything I touched and I mean everything. It’s the first time in my life I verbally said that. I think I thought it but no way I would say it. I started listing my failures, from sports, friendships, marriage, business, parenting, my personnel finances, addiction, sex etc.. With those thoughts I could never be truly happy or feel worthy. Brian my counselor looks at me and said you have to go back again and fix that. Go back where to what. I already forgave my dad. He was what I blamed, for everything wrong. So what do you mean. I said I struggle with love to. I feel like I don’t do it well and I struggle to receive it.  So with one minute left in the session he said I don’t know where you need to go to start but you have to.

Walked to my car sat down and wanted to throw up. All I could say is are you fing serious all of this and I left something in the rear view that I didn’t cleanup. I wanted to cry but I was to angry. I had a very brief conversation with God that a little something like you can Kiss my … God. AS I drove to an apt for work I sat there thinking this issue is like a ghost. You can see a ghost but you go to grab it and there’s nothing there. Yes, I know I can pray and have but God wants me to put the work in too. I’m fighting a ghost and even though I consider myself a pretty scrappy fighter this one I’m at a loss on now.

You might be fighting something too that seems like a losing cause. All I know If I can overcome so many of my demons this will fall to it just doesn’t come in my time. Here’s to sitting and listening and taping up these weather beaten and bruised hands for another round with me.

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29 02 2016
Karen Taylor

Dearest, darlingest Tyler. You break my heart over and over on a multi-daily basis. I wish you could see what a beautiful, sweet person you are and how lovable you are and how almost everyone who gets to know you loves you. I think you are fighting ghosts. I’m not sure they are real. My dear friend here in Cisco – Sean Grose, proprietor of the wonderful, magical Waverly’s Coffee and Gifts — helped me during a recent accident (I fell Wednesday and nearly concussed my hard head) in front of his shop. Banged my head on the glass windows of his antique front door (oh so embarrassing) – and in the next day or two as I recuperated, got some sleep finally, and began to heal, he brought over one of his wonderful soups and sat down with me and I expressed my feelings of stupid clumsiness, my dyslexic body, and much more, etc., and he said “You have to be vulnerable. It makes you lovable.” Wow. Powerful words. I’m looking forward to a good visit and some conclusionary work on your terrific book on Tuesday in Fort Worth. I’m glad you’re in Colorado – it’s so easy to get your head straight in the mountains and the snow and the scent of pine needles and rich girls at the bar. Love you big – Karen

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