Day 354 With this ring I thee wed

29 12 2013

Getting ready to watch my Dallas Cowboys and I feel my heart is going to be broken. It’s just what the Cowboys fans have to do with! I really enjoyed Christmas and the holidays! New years is a great time but I always wonder why we can’t start changing our lives in September, or April but why just January! Oh well!

I was reading a FB post from a 22 year guy writing his wedding vows and asked for help! He probably had 50 comments and you could tell that they were all from young people who have never been married! It was the Hollywood Vows the generic crap that yes sounds good but isn’t real! Now I’m not against the traditional wedding vows but I bet most people don’t remember them all but also we didn’t follow them. Here are a few of the comments: 1.  We will hold hands until we can’t even pick our hands up anymore 2. Through every fight we will tell each other we love each other! 3. I will never question you or your trust! So I’m going to stop there because I truly feel sorry for the lost expectations. Please realize I would love to have the story book ,marriage or the expectations that we have when we don’t know what it takes to be married! I’m not being Debbie Downer but about 150 different people will read this blog tonight and out of that 150 75 of those will end in divorce. Do you realize the US average on marriage is 5o% of 1st marriage, 87% second marriage and 98% of third marriages end.

Here are some real vows for 1st, 2nd or third marriage:  I will love you when I can’t stand you! I will sacrifice for you when you don’t deserve it! I will make every attempt to like and work with your family no matter what they say about me! When I or you gain weight and look horrible I won’t lie and tell you look good. I will motivate and help you anyway get to where I or you need to be happy with our physical appearance.  A good marriage is about give and take but mostly give and I will try to do that! If you’re expecting me to be perfect I won’t and I don’t expect you to be! Anything can be worked through but we can’t quit on each other! Sometimes it’s not your fault but you still have to make it right! If we don’t pray together one day we will be praying for the other one to go away! Roll with the punches and don’t throw the punches even though you will want to! If you lie to me its the beginning of the end! Tell me the truth no matter how bad its hurts because divorce will hurt a lot worse!

If You want to make your marriage real and work use these vows! There are things you cannot imagine that will happen when you married! Nobody that has gone through it can even explain it! I loved being married and hope to be again one day but if you’re not realistic about it you will become a stat like me!





7 responses

29 12 2013

I say give them the Hollywood vows and let them go for the first year. On the first anniversary, you can send them your list, Tyler. Good luck with your Cowboys tonight.

29 12 2013

I think that’s fair! Thanks for reading and being supportive! Happy 2014

29 12 2013

You, too, Ty! Happy New Year to you and the children.

29 12 2013

Great words, Tyler. I had to share on my fb page. Loved that vows you included. Realistic relationships are so hard to come by. Thanks for the encouragement!!

29 12 2013
Jason B. Ladd

We need more posts like this to prepare young people for what marriage is really all about. You included some great advice. It really is all about give. If each person focuses more on the other, then both will be fulfilled in a way that will keep their relationship strong.

1 01 2014

Man I appreciate your writing and blog so much! Thank you for following me and the support!

1 01 2014
Jason B. Ladd

Likewise. Keep them coming!

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