Day 233 Woman ask him out

29 08 2013

Day 233 Woman ask him out.





Day 233 Woman ask him out

28 08 2013

Day 233 Woman ask him out.





Day 233 Woman ask him out

28 08 2013

This is one of one of my favorite blogs because it’s so true! I wrote this in August and have a lot of time to make sure about this. If you can’t ask him out at least let him know you like him. Remember men are dumb creatures we don’t always pick up on non-verbal ques. Sometimes a smack in the face would be great! I have caught myself saying I should ask her out but no way not today. I don’t use lines so I try to be funny and somedays my comedy stinks! just read and think about it!

 

Another day another dollar. Thats always been a funny saying because it’s not true!  Another day you need more than a dollar is better!  This weekend when hanging out with a friend we were talking about how hard it is to date being older. He said the hardest thing is rejection. You want to ask and you get your hopes up and about the time your ready to ask she leaves, you chicken out, or you talk  yourself out of why she will say no.  I never really had this discussion with another guy but after asking many single men the conclusion became. Woman please ask me out. Times have changed and women want all things to be equal except when it comes to relationships and dating. I’m old school still open doors, pull out chairs etc.. but man it would be amazing if a women asks me out. The one thing women don’t understand is the courage and power it takes to ask a women out then she says no.  The thought the process we go through is amazing. Sure you can get “that guy” who will ask anybody but he’s looking for one thing and nothing more. I m talking about that person you see on Facebook, in church, at the grocery store, gym etc.. You see him look at you maybe he waves and he considers that success and if you smile at him he thinks look at what I did, but getting a smile and a yes when I ask you out is big time different.

Think about this: he doesn’t ask because he thinks you would say no. You would say yes but he gets afraid and walks away. Life is about 3 second decisions. Can’t really hurt anything! From my friend Patrick he said:
I am 38 and ever since I can remember….woman have never  asked me out & I asked woman out that I was I attracted to. I would not have known they were interested had they not…some guys simply do not know when a woman is attracted to them……sculpture or not. Just be yourself . If your attracted to someone …..let them know…….as long as you are both single etc. . . .

I don’t want women to deal with rejection but if you want something go get it. Remember men have self-esteem issues as well and hate being rejected. Don’t worry about who pays just let him know you like them old school ways can come back or if  you want to pay please do. If you want different from what you had and your sick of your type go ask and see what happens. I speak for all single men that we would appreciate that greatly.

When we do ask let us down easy or say yes you may get the best thing you ever had.





Day 231There’s always a cost

27 08 2013

I packed about a month of weekends into this weekend. Had Brayden’s first TBall game, went and watched a Crossfit competition, Dallas Cowboys game, church and last night went to the Dave Chappell comedy show. There were about 17K people there, it was really hot but one of the funnies thing I have ever watched. I loved Dave Chappell when he was on Comedy Central and its great for him to be back and still as abrasive as ever. The Gexa Pavilion is an outdoor facility and I think that marijuana is highly encouraged there or at least every person around me thought that.

You ever started driving to church and prayed that you would hear something that can take away a feeling, or situation in your life? While in the midst of is this crappy situation I got pulled over for speeding. I got off with a warning and then the message at church was taylor made for me.  When we have been offended or hurt it will always cost us something. I told myself yeah no crap. If your brother sins against you forgive him. Okay I get it but essential it doesn’t matter how many times, someone disrespects you, ignores you, spits on you we have to continue to forgive. Well that sucks in all honesty.  Sooner or later enough is enough! Not from Gods perspective though and so I get offend and carry it with me. I wear my heart on my sleeve and thin-skinned sometimes. So when someone puts the bait out I take it. I get offend and I get hurt usually pretty bad. Sure I’m better but I still think of at times if that person was to get sick would it bother me. How  about if they just got a little food poisoning. I know I’m not in the boat alone because every one of us has been offended and wished something bad on someone and that caused bitterness which then moves to unforgiveness.As pastor Toby said you can’t believe in God and live a don’t cross me attitude. The thing is we are all going to get offended but how do we let that control that life. Your mate cheats on you and leaves, a best friend that made fun of you with the “others” , your kids spit on you  after all you have done.  There is a cost if you don’t let it go: 1. It keeps you in your past and you can never live the life intended if you don’t let it go. 2. If you hold onto it the your taking God’s place and he will let you have it if you want, 3. You kill your holy spirit, and 4.the devil has you and you won’t let go of him.

I thought I was done with that part of my life but lucky me I’m human and if I think I have  it under control I don’t. The message hit home and I’m so thankful I heard it but I do know I m working everyday to let go of the offense. It is costing me the need to fill justified, I have to lose and not get even, but really losing that is not a loss its called living and thats what I want to do.





Day 231There’s always a cost

27 08 2013

Day 231There’s always a cost.





Day 231There’s always a cost

26 08 2013

I packed about a month of weekends into this weekend. Had Brayden’s first TBall game, went and watched a Crossfit competition, Dallas Cowboys game, church and last night went to the Dave Chappell comedy show. There were about 17K people there, it was really hot but one of the funnies thing I have ever watched. I loved Dave Chappell when he was on Comedy Central and its great for him to be back and still as abrasive as ever. The Gexa Pavilion is an outdoor facility and I think that marijuana is highly encouraged there or at least every person around me thought that.

You ever started driving to church and prayed that you would hear something that can take away a feeling, or situation in your life? While in the midst of is this crappy situation I got pulled over for speeding. I got off with a warning and then the message at church was taylor made for me.  When we have been offended or hurt it will always cost us something. I told myself yeah no crap. If your brother sins against you forgive him. Okay I get it but essential it doesn’t matter how many times, someone disrespects you, ignores you, spits on you we have to continue to forgive. Well that sucks in all honesty.  Sooner or later enough is enough! Not from Gods perspective though and so I get offend and carry it with me. I wear my heart on my sleeve and thin-skinned sometimes. So when someone puts the bait out I take it. I get offend and I get hurt usually pretty bad. Sure I’m better but I still think of at times if that person was to get sick would it bother me. How  about if they just got a little food poisoning. I know I’m not in the boat alone because every one of us has been offended and wished something bad on someone and that caused bitterness which then moves to unforgiveness.As pastor Toby said you can’t believe in God and live a don’t cross me attitude. The thing is we are all going to get offended but how do we let that control that life. Your mate cheats on you and leaves, a best friend that made fun of you with the “others” , your kids spit on you  after all you have done.  There is a cost if you don’t let it go: 1. It keeps you in your past and you can never live the life intended if you don’t let it go. 2. If you hold onto it the your taking God’s place and he will let you have it if you want, 3. You kill your holy spirit, and 4.the devil has you and you won’t let go of him.

I thought I was done with that part of my life but lucky me I’m human and if I think I have  it under control I don’t. The message hit home and I’m so thankful I heard it but I do know I m working everyday to let go of the offense. It is costing me the need to fill justified, I have to lose and not get even, but really losing that is not a loss its called living and thats what I want to do.





Day 226 Am I okay

23 08 2013

It’s amazing how many times in the day I hear some random women say something negative about how they look. I truly appreciate a women when she’s not a dolled up. Women please listen: when u think u look ur worst u look ur best. Appreciate ur true beauty and if he doesn’t like it teach him.  You teach a man by not speaking down how you look. You learn that the more respect  yourself even on the ” not good days” he will learn. Men are dumb creatures. You also teach by complimenting him even on his bad days.

I got to have lunch with one of my favorite fraternity brothers yesterday and catch him up on the past 4 years. He said are you okay. I said absolutely doing great. He said sometimes I read your blog and I worry about you. I want to let all of you to know that I truly am doing great. I struggle some days like everyone and there are moments that take me back to a sad or angry place in my past. I write about my past, divorce, father, loss of friends, money etc.. but I want someone to understand the past is just that. It does hurt and shapes our future but we don’t have to be defined by it. I still write because it makes me feel better and I need to get the pain of life off of my chest. Many of you don’t know that Im very funny, I can tell a joke about anything, I can laugh at the smallest things and Im the guy that ” yes he just said that”. I used to be serious and when funny it was just to cover up my pain. Now my true Tyler is back and I love to entertain and try to make others smile. For the first time in my 37 years I have a peace about me and sometimes the peace is weird and I don’t understand it but I do appreciate it.

This is the best place I have ever been in life. Sure I would love to have someone in my life to help complete the circle but that time hasn’t come. Since I have waited and got to the point that I don’t “need” someone  she will be lucky and so will I. So the question are you okay. I have never been better, if your close to me you would say when you were born you weren’t okay but that’s just my crazy side you don’t know about. I truly appreciate all of the encouragement, sayings and patience you have shown with me. Don’t worry if Im not okay I will let you know but in the mean time here is one guy that the devil didn’t beat.

 





Day 226 Am I okay

22 08 2013

It’s amazing how many times in the day I hear some random women say something negative about how they look. I truly appreciate a women when she’s not a dolled up. Women please listen: when u think u look ur worst u look ur best. Appreciate ur true beauty and if he doesn’t like it teach him.  You teach a man by not speaking down how you look. You learn that the more respect  yourself even on the ” not good days” he will learn. Men are dumb creatures. You also teach by complimenting him even on his bad days.

I got to have lunch with one of my favorite fraternity brothers yesterday and catch him up on the past 4 years. He said are you okay. I said absolutely doing great. He said sometimes I read your blog and I worry about you. I want to let all of you to know that I truly am doing great. I struggle some days like everyone and there are moments that take me back to a sad or angry place in my past. I write about my past, divorce, father, loss of friends, money etc.. but I want someone to understand the past is just that. It does hurt and shapes our future but we don’t have to be defined by it. I still write because it makes me feel better and I need to get the pain of life off of my chest. Many of you don’t know that Im very funny, I can tell a joke about anything, I can laugh at the smallest things and Im the guy that ” yes he just said that”. I used to be serious and when funny it was just to cover up my pain. Now my true Tyler is back and I love to entertain and try to make others smile. For the first time in my 37 years I have a peace about me and sometimes the peace is weird and I don’t understand it but I do appreciate it.

This is the best place I have ever been in life. Sure I would love to have someone in my life to help complete the circle but that time hasn’t come. Since I have waited and got to the point that I don’t “need” someone  she will be lucky and so will I. So the question are you okay. I have never been better, if your close to me you would say when you were born you weren’t okay but that’s just my crazy side you don’t know about. I truly appreciate all of the encouragement, sayings and patience you have shown with me. Don’t worry if Im not okay I will let you know but in the mean time here is one guy that the devil didn’t beat.

 





Day 226 Am I okay

22 08 2013

It’s amazing how many times in the day I hear some random women say something negative about how they look. I truly appreciate a women when she’s not a dolled up. Women please listen: when u think u look ur worst u look ur best. Appreciate ur true beauty and if he doesn’t like it teach him.  You teach a man by not speaking down how you look. You learn that the more respect  yourself even on the ” not good days” he will learn. Men are dumb creatures. You also teach by complimenting him even on his bad days.

I got to have lunch with one of my favorite fraternity brothers yesterday and catch him up on the past 4 years. He said are you okay. I said absolutely doing great. He said sometimes I read your blog and I worry about you. I want to let all of you to know that I truly am doing great. I struggle some days like everyone and there are moments that take me back to a sad or angry place in my past. I write about my past, divorce, father, loss of friends, money etc.. but I want someone to understand the past is just that. It does hurt and shapes our future but we don’t have to be defined by it. I still write because it makes me feel better and I need to get the pain of life off of my chest. Many of you don’t know that Im very funny, I can tell a joke about anything, I can laugh at the smallest things and Im the guy that ” yes he just said that”. I used to be serious and when funny it was just to cover up my pain. Now my true Tyler is back and I love to entertain and try to make others smile. For the first time in my 37 years I have a peace about me and sometimes the peace is weird and I don’t understand it but I do appreciate it.

This is the best place I have ever been in life. Sure I would love to have someone in my life to help complete the circle but that time hasn’t come. Since I have waited and got to the point that I don’t “need” someone  she will be lucky and so will I. So the question are you okay. I have never been better, if your close to me you would say when you were born you weren’t okay but that’s just my crazy side you don’t know about. I truly appreciate all of the encouragement, sayings and patience you have shown with me. Don’t worry if Im not okay I will let you know but in the mean time here is one guy that the devil didn’t beat.

 





Day 224 Reblog of my divorce 1 year ago

21 08 2013

Day 224 Reblog of my divorce 1 year ago

20 08 2013

I wanted those that haven’t read my blog to see what a year makes. I’m thankful for the journey and the opportunity to heal through the blog. I used to write everyday which was good then but the creative juices aren’t that strong everyday. lol Here were my thoughts one year ago today.

I let my kids go stay with my sister to spend time with them and also so they couldn’t see the wreck I was.
Today has been one of the most emotional days I have ever had. It started at about 2:00 am this morning. I was driving back and forth down 35 to Oklahoma and back to clear my head and nothing became clear. I tested a few of you hope you would respond back but wishing that you didn’t. I wanted to tell you the pain I was feeling but also didn’t want you to worry.
AS I write this today please feel no pity on me or feel sorry for me I made my bed laid in it and forgot to make when I woke up. All I want is to make sure that you never end up in the situation and if you have that never again. I started crying today in church. My mom and I were listening to the message on Sex and sexuality (One of the most amazing messages I have ever heard. I will talk about it tomorrow) I then looked back and every mistake I made in our marriage came back to me today. The lies I believed from Satan about deception, temptation, desire and destruction. That it would never happen to me and it did. Every day I woke up feeling less than a man and it helped destroy my marriage. When he talked about all the lust problems men have I cringed and then something in me opened the flood gates. He said that it was a battle that can be won and I lost it until recently.
Today  is the culmination of 14 years of my life from 22-36. I never once thought this day would ever come. Nobody gets married thinking man I can’t wait to get divorced, but then it happens. Our plans or made from a happy marriage idea and now they I’m picking up and moving on with a whole new set of dreams, and goals not yet fully known. I wanted to make a list of the good and bad that I can recall and what this day tomorrow means to me as I m left with my thoughts.

Good: When after playing paper rock scissors and I won because I know how to cheat she said yes that would go on a date with me. The first kiss in my truck and the three-hour conversation that followed. first time I held her hand,The 3 hours on a boat dock fishing, talking and eating taco bell, when she made me the first meal she had ever cooked, when she got her masters degree, I graduated from UNT, When I got on a knee and asked her to marry me and she said yes, when they opened the door to the church and I couldn’t believe how lucky I was and how beautiful she was,  when she got so drunk on our honeymoon she couldn’t walk to our suite, when the pregnancy test came back positive, when I saw our first child born and I got to hold her and looked at her and thanked my ex for giving me something so perfect,when we signed the papers for our first house, our first Christmas and how all of Christmas trees always leaned, when we bought our daughter her first Easter dress, our trip to Colorado Springs,  when we got our first cat Rugger, when she laid in bed with me and accepted God, when we found her dad’s side of the family and the pure europhia I was in. Our first trip to Disney world, the first time I got to stick my hand out and meet her real father and tell him how well he had done, when we didn’t have the money but found a way to get her back to Florida so she could tell her dad goodbye from cancer, when she told me how proud of me she was when I buried my father and how I handled it, our first trip to Las Vegas, Cozumel, and San Diego. The constant encouragement for me to make my business successful,  Giving me my 2nd child, being a great mother when I was not a great father,

Bad:
I can’t remember anything good from the past two years, when I met her mother, when I asked her mother if I could marry her daughter, when I had to ask her to love me, when I felt less than a man and she never knew what to say, planning our wedding, first time I cried around her, the things her mother said to me, the first pregnancy and how miserable we both were, our trip to see her grandmother in Chicago, when our daughter was 18 months old our trip to see her mother and when we came home I told her I wanted a divorce, the day my dad died, the day her dad died exactly two years later on the same day,  Our first car purchase, the names I called her,  the feeling of inadequacy I always felt, that no matter what I bought her I never thought she liked it, the things she said our of hate, when I told her I hated her, her giving up on me,  Business bankruptcy Sept 2009, personal bankruptcy April 9th 2010, she never came back after that, The lies she believed about me based on someone else s view,the incident in August 2011, that no matter what she never loved me, she never paid me a compliment, 2nd Vegas trip, The trip to Tennessee, December 7th 2011, Christmas 2011, when she told me she didn’t love me anymore, when she said that when I fell off her pedestal she never put me back on it, May 21st 2012 she said that she wanted a divorce that she didn’t love me and couldn’t remember the last time she had, When she said that I made every change that she wanted but that wasn’t good enough and she would never love me that way again, that reconciliation was not an option, finally tomorrow Aug 20th 2012

Folks I know all marriages go through this. You don’t have to.

I ask that tonight and tomorrow that you pray for us both. I ask that you don’t go down this road, and you send this blog to someone who needs to hear it. I love the opportunity this has given me and allowed myself to be vulnerable so I can be healed. Until tomorrow night.

 








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