Day 156 A few tips for women

Okay for all of those wished for the heat I hope your happy. If you smelled cooking bacon today and wondered where that was coming from yes that was my head. The people who wish for the heat are the same ones that complain about it being hot. Yes Texas is hot and humid until August and then we just turn on the fire. So enjoy and bacon is my favorite food.

Please know women this is not a bashing at you. I’m writing this to help you. In the past three 3 days I have heard 4 men tell I want a divorce. No matter what I do its wrong, she can do it better and always tell me. You might as well put a gun to his head and pull the trigger because you have killed him. Love and Respect My Dr. Emerson Eggerichs was amazing for me came a little to late though but still amazing. The love she most desires, the Respect he desperately needs.

The title says it all. I 100% understand this is a two-way street and tomorrow I will to the men but it was fresh on my mind today. I know we can all relate to this: Men hear Criticism as contempt; Women feel silence as hostility. So true Men are simple, respect, love, and sex. A woman has at least 60 things that she needs, each day that changes and if you do one of them wrong she will rip my head off. Thats how we feel and you can’t do any of just three. i hear it all the time. I ask the guy so  how do you love her. He gives some generic answer and so the merry-go-round starts. Someone has to stop the (Circle of shit) Thats my creative nickname. You have to go back to why you feel in love and start speaking those things to your spouse.

I could write for hours but buy the book and start today. Bottom line love is not enough. I don’t care what The Beatles song said: Love has to be there but most aren’t divorcing because they don’t love each  love each other there in “The Cycle”. You can be right but wrong at the top of your voice. Remember that if being right is what you want congrats you will be right and your killing your spouse at the same time. Men want you to think they are the greatest thing in the world. They married you, loved you and want to be the best for you. When you start telling them, how they aren’t, how you didn’t do this right, I would have done it this way. The man has quit on you. You chopped his private parts off. Every negative thing you tell he already feels and beats himself up everyday, then the women he loves the most  beats it into him. Well you lost him, you were right, but he’s gone. so we go find a hot 22-year-old that we have nothing in common with because she thinks we hung the moon. We don’t care about her but at least she thinks Im okay.

Men are weak! Sorry no matter what he tells you your words are the killing poison or the best medicine to cure the sick. You have no idea the power you have. We have a lot more feelings than we let you know because we feel that if we show you/ you’ll stomp on them,

There’s a story in the book I will leave you with: Lady tells Dr. Eggerichs. I have asked my husband to paint this room in the house for two years and he just won’t. Dr says when was the last time you said something positive to him, she pauses and said I can’t remember. Dr said go tell him for one week no matter how hard it is how great he is and why you love him. She said I don’t know if I can! The lady comes back one week later and said he painted the room without me even asking. She said I didn’t know all of the things I was saying to him how destructive they were. Dr says he just wants to know that to you he means everything and that you respect him. One month later she’s back and she said our marriage is 180 degree different.