Day 28 Im dying my total days 13625

29 01 2013

Today was one of the weird days in Texas weather. I was driving with windows down and the wind-blown trough my scalp ( I have no hair) , then it started raining and the wind was blowing like the Wizard of OZ and I just turned my heater on a bot ago. Love Texas Weather.

I also got reprimanded for speaking about my ex here on the blog so I won’t be talking about her life and how it affects anything with me anymore.

I told all of you I was going to make amends,say I m sorry and tell people what they meant to me. I had another incredible lunch today with someone who today that I believe if I wouldn’t pushed her out of my life I would be married to her today. She was amazing and I treated her very badly but the apology was accepted very graciously. If I would just allowed people to love me I would have been a lot happier in my life. You know who you are and thank you!!

I m going to my first meetup tonight in Arlington. Wish me luck because I have no idea what this is, what to expect. At least I can tell someone new that doesn’t me all my dumb  my jokes

I’m dying and so are you I have lived 13625 Days: 20000 Days and Counting maybe one of the best books I have every read. Each chapter is 3 pages and is packed with life alternating information.  as I have said many times get busy living or get busy dying. Read the book and this will make sense. Sorry for being so dramatic.

Here are other people’s thoughts:

“I never trust anyone who claims to have all the right answers. But someone who can help me figure out all the right questions? That guy is gold. And that’s what Robert D. Smith delivers in 20,000 Days and Counting.”

— Dave Ramsey | New York Times Best-Selling Author and Nationally Syndicated Radio Host

 

“Inside these pages is a crash course in making the most of this adventure called ‘life.’ It’s simple, powerful, and perfectly reflects my neighbor in Nashville who always has a fresh way to look at any challenge I’m facing.”

— Jon Acuff | Wall Street Journal Best-Selling Author of Quitter: Closing the Gap Between Your Day Job & Your Dream Job

 

“Everything you need to know in order to create a basis for where you want to be is here in this book.”

— Andy Andrews, New York Times best-selling author of How Do You Kill 11 Million People?, The Noticer, & The Traveler’s Gift

 

“It’s no accident that this little book found its way into your hands. Don’t underestimate it. It will change forever how you think about your life. Read it. Absorb it. Live it!”

— Michael Hyatt | New York Times Best-Selling Author, Former CEO, Thomas Nelson Publishers

 

“When you’re pursuing a dream, it’s easy to be intimidated by “what you don’t know,” but Robert’s book provides practical steps on how to use “what you do know” to make your dream a reality! The principles in 20,000 Days And Counting are life changing!”

— Don Moen | Dove-Award Winning Artist, Songwriter, Musician, Producer

 

“Few people can hug your neck and kick you in the behind at the same time; Robert D. Smith is one! If you want the truth and nothing but the truth about making your life count, you want…no, you need this book now! This man gets it, and shares it powerfully with your best interests at heart. Things are about to change for the better in your life!”

— Rick Loy | Sales VP, AdvoCare International

 

“This book will make you passionate, excited, and utterly crazy about your life and the potential you possess. Be warned—people might stare!”

— Patsy Clairmont | Speaker, Author of Stained Glass Hearts

 

“20,000 Days and Counting captures the wisdom of the ages regarding how to live life on purpose.”

— Mark Miller | Vice President of Training and Development, Chick-fil-A

 

“This book will inspire readers young and old to approach their lives with enthusiasm and make every day count.”

— Carol Nygren | EVP & Managing Director, Women of Faith

 

“20,000 Days and Counting is as genuine as they come. Before writing the material, Robert D. Smith lived it.”

— Joseph G. Lake | Co-Founder, Children’s Miracle Network Hospital

 

“TheRobertD has unique and unprecedented wisdom that has made him the great accelerant to countless high-powered careers. In 20,000 Days and Counting he generously and abundantly gives you the inspiring principles to catalyze your next success. Who cares if you reach your goals? This book will guarantee you fulfill your life’s purpose.”

— Rory Vaden | Cofounder Southwestern Consulting, New York Times Best-Selling Author of Take the Stairs

 

“After reading 20,000 Days and Counting, you’ll get more out of your next 24 hours than you did out of your previous month.”

— Duane Ward | Founder/CEO Premiere International, LLC, Franklin, TN

Of all the principles shared the one that jumped out at me most was `Motivation is a myth.’ The author says:

“Believe me. You cannot motivate people to do any one thing. Even yourself. Never try to motivate yourself or anyone else to increase productivity. Instead, do the opposite: Increase your productivity, then the motivation will follow.

I reflected on my own experiences and could see the truth in this. My attempts at motivation in itself have often been very short-lived to downright failures. However, whenever I did just set my mind to it and accomplish a task, I found I was more likely to feel satisfied and attempt another.





Day 26 Surprise or not

27 01 2013

I went from not knowing what to do to have a packed weekend. My buddy Scott had an interview and had to stay in Austin. Friday night I went to a relationship class called Understanding men. It was a coed class and I learned a ton. The one thing I think that women have no idea about men is that we are very fragile. We are built to be strong and we are but your words can crush us or make us feel like were on cloud nine. A compliment for a man can go on for three months if you tell him your proud of him and see if he doesn’t change. It’s not about who does it first or who continues it but you will see a change.  There is about this between men and women called  Love and Respect by Eggerichs. If a man knows you respect him he will do anything for you but let him believe you don’t and he stops dead in his tracks. He may not even know it. I encourage married couples, single, new relationship to try a class. If you’re doing everything correct you’ll know for sure but if not we can always learn something.

I get a call from my daughter at 11:10 Friday night and she’s crying. I was panicked and she said ” Mommy is getting married”.  (Surprise or not I knew this was coming)I gathered myself and told her that we had already discussed this and as long has mommy was happy that we have to be happy. This will never be the place to discuss this topic but it is difficult on my daughter which then becomes my problem too. Good luck to us all!!

I spent yesterday morning working and then spent the afternoon at Ambit energy simulcast. It is one amazing company that is the 7th fastest growing company ever. The ethics and morals of the company will take it to the best ever and I am so glad to be a part of it. After the event we had a team dinner and I was motivated and the excuses were killed by the leaders. It’s always good to be in a room of can do and not I can’t. I went to Winstar after that and enjoyed the tables and slots for a bit and actually did okay.

Finally I’m a retired Rugby player. My body has had enough and finally I’m smart enough to listen to my body. I went back to Rugby for the wrong reasons. 1. I was lonely and wanted to be with a group of guys that I at least had something in common with. 2nd I felt like I had to prove something to myself after the way I left the field injured. I did all the proving I need to that in 8 months I walked back out there after a severe broken leg. I’m finally maturing so now I will use my skills to help run the club from a board perspective.

Keep reading I’m going to talk about that I believe can change lives. Every chapter is only three pages and so freaking powerful.

 





Day 22 Just tell them

24 01 2013

I had one great day I drove every where but I got to eat lunch with a friend of mine from Jr. high. She is an amazing women who we shared a lot of life with. Let me preface before people freak out that it was not a date. She has an amazing husband and two children we wanted to catch up. I did most of the talking which I m sorry for but next time I will shut up. I made a promise to myself  this year to tell the people that have mattered most in my life how important they were to me and thank you. Don’t feel left out I haven’t got to everyone!!

After our 1.5 conversation I apologized for my crap, and thanked her for her friendship. I also told her that I was sorry that I never asked her out and she probably thought something was wrong with me because I never did. I will say that I had a huge crush on her and even though we shared a lot of things I never got the courage up to tell her or even explain why I didn’t. The biggest reason is my self-esteem has always been in the gutter. If came to telling someone off I was great at that but couldn’t say the good which brings me to the blog.

Just tell them! I mean the good stuff to a total stranger of that friend of 5 years of that person that you don’t know but you always think good thoughts about them. Yes even that person your thinking of now. Why when we have to tell someone something bad it just rolls off my tongue or yours, but when we want to tell someone your a great person, thank you for always being so happy, your hair looks great, your smile is contagious why won’t we. Or if you think they maybe hurt, scared afraid if I say something or they may reject me. All of these things are possible but what if the reverse happens. What if you saved that person, what if you made their day, what if your compliment changes their life. What if you tell someone how they mean to you and it changes your life. See free will works both ways. People always say that life turns out the way its supposed and I say yes and no. What if you would have said I think your amazing. Does your life change? People say well you wouldn’t have your kids that you have now, you wouldn’t have the life you have, but I would have another life it could be worse, better different kids. MAybe if we would have said something to that person our life changes for the better. Just something to ponder!

All I know that I m trying everyday to say something good to someone else because bottom line they need to hear it. I do get scared and fearful because I hate rejection. So far not one person has rejected me, or my compliment or my thank you. So I m going to make my amends, and I m going to say goods things because I love watching peoples faces light up and then my does too.

Thanks again to my friend for lunch and my friends that I will have lunch with in future!!





Day 21 All out hatred

23 01 2013

You know what makes a great Crock pot meal, ingredients, a crock pot turning it on and oh yes power. You have to plug a crock pot in to make it work. Maybe I was thinking it would be wireless. Yes I forgot to plug it in. Oh well we will be ready tomorrow.

I wonder when you walk through the doors of Wal-mart they put some kind of magic dust on you that makes you spend a minimum of $100. I can’t walk out there without.

I have a Wednesday morning man’s group that might be the most real experience I have in my life. These guys hold back nothing and thank God they didn’t they helped me get to where I am at today. This morning I heard a few pretty profound statements that help me think all day. 1. “If we will learn to strive to make the love of our life happy and make it an adventure I promise u will succeed. 2.We can either try to figure out life or walk with God. That is one profound statement. So we talked about this for a while and then the storm hit.

We have a gentleman that was a great athlete and played professionally for two of the top teams in his sport and dominated. You would never have known that he was who he was or is but he went through 3-6 months of in-house rehab and is so much better and a joy to listen too. He is married to what we call a control hloic who can never be wrong. he started and he went off and about 10 minutes into I looked to him and said its time to move on. If she won’t change or go to counseling and everything is always your fault. I heard the hate saw the hate and then it happened. It all rushed back to me the sex, the control the blah blah. I actual got mad and had to get up and leave the table for a bit. He has an all out hatred for his wife and is only there for the kids. I could feel his pain and then he said I would rather be dead it would be easier.

I so remember those days and as tears rolled down my eyes I told him I understand and I understand how disrespect, the lack of sex, lack of love can bring you to nothing. He said I feel two inches tall and have no self-esteem. This was a man who played in Title games, had anything he wanted had a great relationship with God and felt so bad. I gave him my two cents and gave him a hug. He looked me in the eye and said he loved me and that he appreciated what I had to say.

I know I have made myself to be the worst man ever. I know what I did wrong, I know what I felt, what I said and how I wanted to die because it would have been easier. God hates divorce we all know that but what you never hear is that God hates horrible marriages and hates when people would rather die than live. There are always two in any situation. Yes even you that thinks you didn’t do anything wrong.I was married to someone who didn’t respect, love, shunned sex etc.. I was miserable and it wasn’t worth it. Sure I would love to be married so my family could be intact but life is better for us both. I never condon divorce but sometimes it the only choice. We are not made to hate but can get there pretty easy.

None of this may not make sense and maybe I m rambling but we aren’t here for hate. Step out and change it and if someone chooses not to change then get out. Life is to short and there is an awesome life waiting for you.

 





Day 20 Reblog of one of my toughest’s blog

22 01 2013

I want to say a big shout out to my readers in Malaysia. I have 11 followers there. It’s amazing how people all over the world read this and thank you for doing so. I had a great day and met some interesting people today. I hope that these people were brought into my life to help me make a difference. Thank you to Jennifer Luney for holding me accountable, making me follow my goals and not taking no for an answer.

I know many of the people who read this blog never got to read my blog that I did in blog spot. I always have some people ask why did you start so I wanted to reblog some of my old posts. I know its lazy but maybe it will help explain a few things. July 26 2012

Tonight’s blog will be the toughest to write so far because I get into my father’s death.
Heading off in a bit to see the movie Ted again Funniest movie I have ever seen. I have  a lot of responses from last nights blog and man they were deep. I m glad I can those people out that got a hold of me. Just don’t quit keep pushing and surround yourself that truly wants  what best for you without getting anything in return.
Thank you again: to the following folks Cody T, Jessica L Jennifer R, Slyder Jim, Collin B. LauraZ.
I  still worry about money way to much and did today. It is a never-ending process and I tell God I believe that he will provide then try to find my own way.

I want it the way it has always been but different. I hope some can relate to this from the Book How to Stop the Pain: Children grow up in homes where criticism is the norm will live the rest of their lives out of the judgements they make about criticism. A boy may judge ” My mother criticized me because she loves me. That judgement may predetermine what kind of women he will marry. When he longs for love he will look for someone  who criticizes him. After all, that is his judgement concerning his mothers criticism. Criticism equals love, in his view. But then he cannot understand why he is miserable in this adult relationship.
Or the girl who passes judgement that all criticism is a form of rejection will be forced in another direction. She will avoid anyone who attempts to add any quality or direction to her life. She may search out a mate who has no opinion, is afraid or confrontation, and never shares his view. This could also be who she could potentially have an affair with. She could be doomed to a life with a non communicator, Unhappy with this person who seems so emotionless, she doesn’t understand shy she was ever attracted to him.

I thought this was a very powerful statement from the book and one I lived for so long.

After I left my parents house that day I started planning how to take care of my mom, and sister when my dad died. The one thing I feel so guilty about today is that I was really pissed about two days later that my dad bared his soul to me and now he was going to die. He left with all of the emotion and then you leave. I’m so thankful today that he said what he needed to because I know many who never got that chance. I never once thought about myself or prepared myself to mourn. I know I pulled away from my family some but when with them acted like everything was okay. I remember once my ex asked you sure you ready for your dad to die. My answer oh yeah I knew this was coming. No matter the lie  you tell yourself you never ready for a parent to die no matter what the relationship with them was. I went back to work on Monday and every was back to “NORMAL”. I did call my dads brother and tell him to come visit because he was about to die. He said that he would come visit on that Friday which was February 4th. I played the scenarios in my head and what I would say to everyone you know act like I was a big badass man and I had it under control because I did. Ha.
So on that Friday we all went to my parents house again to see my dad and his brother. They were identical twins and it was really weird seeing my uncle who was healthy and my dad who was so sick. When we arrived my dad had no idea that we were there they had given him so much morphine for his pain that he was out of it. I remember going to the table and telling him hi and he had no idea who I was. So I went outside and composed myself and came back in.
By this time your numb I  think. It was about to be the end of my dad’s life and I honestly felt nothing at the moment for him or anyone else. That night was the last night I saw my dad alive. I called a few times the following week but my mom said that he couldn’t respond. I knew that already but my guilty conscience felt better because I had stayed away from the situation. We had a few calls in the past saying your dads dying and come home but most of the time we took him to the hospital and he was okay. On February 10th at 9:38 pm my mom called and said Tyler its time to come home now. I went to the store to get medicine for your dad and he went into a coma. ( He sent my mom away to the store because I believe he knew this was coming). Her voice was different this time and I knew it was about to happen. The drive from Aubrey to Cleburne was the longest drive I have ever made. I wanted to get there but I didn’t. I was trying to prepare what to say and be strong etc.. None of it was working I pulled over on 35 3 times and threw up. I remember when I pulled up to the house I didn’t want to get out. I sat in the car and listened to a song don’t remember what it was and hoped it would never end. I got out looked at the house that was a giant piece of shot because of their financial situation and said boy what a great son your turned out to be. Your going to let your dad die in the piece of shit.. I didn’t let me ex go or my daughter. I wanted to protect them from seeing this  situation but honestly I wanted to protect them from seeing me struggling so bad. I wish more than anything I would have let them come I needed them so much.
I gave my mom a hug and told it was alright and she didn’t do anything wrong by leaving. I told her that she lived out her vows and God would reward her for the wife she was. My sister and I hugged and then joked because that’s how we deal with things. I then went into the bedroom and their he laid eyes closed and the weirdest breathing pattern I had ever seen. They said he can hear you so talk to him. I just sat next to him for a bit and didn’t say a word. I asked everyone to leave the room and then held his hand and cried. I apologized for being a failure, and letting him down, that I never became the athlete I was supposed to be, that I couldn’t help him get over the sickness. I told him I was sorry that I left him when he need me all I wanted was a squeeze or something but that wasn’t possible. The hospice nurse said he could live another 24-48 hours until all of his vital organs shut down. I pretty much laid next to him until he died. I will never forget at 8:15 am on Friday February 11th he breathing became very shallow. I knew it was almost over. I grabbed his hand and told him I was proud how hard he had fought and that I loved him but to go now. At 8:20 he left us. One of the most surreal moments in my life is that his body went from warm to cold as I held his hand. I know that was the spirit leaving him and he went to heaven. The one thing that no son should have to due is put a parent onto the gurney or into a hertz but I did. My dad was a big man and they needed help lifting him and getting him through the house. I did help and got him out to the Hertz helped lift him in and I closed the doors. I closed the doors to a lot that day but mostly my heart.





Day 18 Commitment

21 01 2013

Had a busy but really fun weekend with my kids. Morgan got to spend the night with some girls in the complex and for a while I got to watch how girls interact. I still don’t understand it but I’m beginning to see what grown women are like. It starts at a young age for girls I wish we could observe has boys so we could learn then instead of in our 30′s lol.

I took my mom and son to a minor league hockey game and my son watched a little bit then wanted to climb on the rail until they smashed each other on the boards and he looked at me and said that was awesome. They got into a fight and Brayden said I want to play this tomorrow. Well he’s my son for sure. Look out world.

Since I m single and I don’t have a fake girlfriend (maybe that’s easier) I read a lot about relationships and I also attend a new relationship class with church. I have a friend who also sends me emails to learn as well. I usually read and pick and choose and here is a great one about commitment that I wanted to share. Share your thoughts with me please.

Contrary to what many people think, men are not averse to commitment. But there ARE a couple of things going on for men when it comes to choosing WHICH woman to commit to.

Knowing this is going to help you understand where we’re coming from… and how to create a lasting, secure relationship with a great guy.

So let’s get right to it…

Men have all kinds of ways of thinking, seeing things, and behaviors that aren’t completely conscious but are what I’ll call more BIOLOGICAL or INSTINCTUAL.

These are things that have been instilled in them over thousands and millions of years of “conditioning” during mating and courtship rituals with women.

When a man is looking for a woman, a part of his instinctual “wiring” unconsciously tells him to look for a woman who is healthy and “fit.” (Not just physically, but emotionally.

This means men are biologically wired to look for, and feel “attracted” to women who have the qualities and traits that indicate a high level of health and “fitness.”

But unfortunately, this “screening process” that’s going on inside a man’s mind is largely UNCONSCIOUS. In other words, a man can’t and won’t just walk up to a woman and say:

“Hi, I’m looking for a mate. I’d like to know if you would make a good mate for me. Are you any of the following?

Emotional stable and secure in yourself so you’ll make a great partner for me and allow me to expand in my life instead of having to stay “small” to make sure you’re comfortable?
Physically fit and healthy so you can conceive a healthy child, give birth, and raise him/her?
“Genetically fit” so that you have a high likelihood to bear successful offspring by passing off great qualities like size, strength, intelligence, immunity, etc?
Intelligent, “funny,” and resourceful so that you can not only be a mate that makes me feel attracted to you and want to conceive lots of children… but also help in this world of hard-to-come-by resources?
Going to make a great mother who can care for our child and raise it while I’m out trying to “provide?:
Catch my drift?

This is part of the reason why so often a woman will ask a man why he’s feeling one way or another… or why he’s acting different or not interested in a relationship and he can’t explain it.

Too many women have found that men can often be careless and lazy in relationships.

WRONG.

This is absolutely not true if you trigger the right feelings in your boyfriend in your relationship. Some men feel so strongly that they’d do anything to protect her and their relationship. And I mean ANYTHING:

He’d risk heartbreak
He’d spend all his money if he had to
He’d travel around the world just to be with you for a night
He’d even risk physical harm or DEATH just to keep you safe and protected
A man can and will become DEEPLY COMMITTED to his girlfriend and their relationship… if he is feeling the right things with her. If he knows she’s worth it.

And therein lies the secret…

How do you make a man feel so in love and so deeply connected and committed to you that he’d do anything for you, and never think twice about leaving or giving up?

LEARN HOW HIS COMMITMENT PROCESS WORKS
Women who don’t understand what the dating and COMMITMENT PROCESS is like inside a man’s mind seem to keep running into the same painful situations, frustrations, and traps with men.

The way a man grows close to a woman, the reasons why he chooses her over another woman, and when and why he decides to start sharing himself with her and growing a real and committed relationship is simply different than it is for most women.

My program From Casual to Committed explains the entire dating and “commitment process” of a man, and I delivered this program live to real women like you.

It was a huge success, and it felt great to know that I not only answered the tough questions women had and needed answered in the live event… but that they were able to take what they learned, apply it in their lives, and get REAL RESULTS with the man in their life:

DON’T MAKE THIS COMMON COMMITMENT MISTAKE
One of the biggest “make it or break it” points for women in relationships with men is when you start to grow close and want to move from just a casual and unspoken thing into a deeper and more serious relationship.

If you’ve ever felt “stuck” in your love life because you didn’t know how to break through the “casual dating” stage with a man and move into a real and committed relationship, I can help.

If you know much about men, then you probably already know that the answer with a man in this situation is NOT to ask him for a commitment. Lots of women try this and become frustrated and baffled when the man they thought they were close to completely pulls away from them and even tries to end the relationship all together.

If you want to grow your relationship with a man, the best way to move into a committed relationship isn’t to come up against his “EMOTIONAL RESISTANCE” to commitment when you bring it up.

The best relationships that women enjoy most, and that last the longest, are the ones where THE MAN is leading the woman into a committed relationship.

Where HE is asking HER to COMMIT TO HIM.

For the greatest chance at happiness and success with a man, and to be able to quickly and easily move from a casual situation to a real and committed relationship with a man, the answer is to learn:

How the commitment process works for him, and what each of the critical steps and experiences are that he needs to have before he’ll truly physically and emotionally commit
How to make a man want to be with you and lead you in to a committed relationship
How to keep your relationship growing and healthy so that you both stay emotionally involved and fulfilled by the relationship
If you really want love in your life, and you want it to LAST on your next go round… then don’t wait for your relationship to figure itself out.

Empower yourself. Don’t wait for a man to figure it out and make your relationship work for you. Don’t wait until you’re dating the right guy and in a great relationship to learn how to help it grow and make it work with him.

It’s time for you to feel what love is meant to feel like when you know how to get a man to help make it last with you. Get started today by checking out my From Casual Committed program here:





Day 18 Commitment

21 01 2013

Had a busy but really fun weekend with my kids. Morgan got to spend the night with some girls in the  complex and for a while I got to watch how girls interact. I still don’t understand it but I’m beginning to see what grown women are like. It starts at a young age for girls I wish we could observe has boys so we could learn then instead of in our 30’s lol.

I took my mom and son to a minor league hockey game and my son watched a little bit then wanted to climb on the rail until they smashed each other on the boards and  he looked at me and said that was awesome. They got into a fight and Brayden said I want to play this tomorrow. Well he’s my son for sure. Look out world.

Since I m single and I don’t have a fake girlfriend (maybe that’s easier) I read a lot about relationships and I also attend a new relationship class with church. I have a friend who also sends me emails to learn as well. I usually read and pick and choose and here is a great one about commitment that I wanted to share. Share your thoughts with  me please.

Contrary to what many people think, men are not averse to commitment. But there ARE a couple of things going on for men when it comes to choosing WHICH woman to commit to.

Knowing this is going to help you understand where we’re coming from… and how to create a lasting, secure relationship with a great guy.

So let’s get right to it…

Men have all kinds of ways of thinking, seeing things, and behaviors that aren’t completely conscious but are what I’ll call more BIOLOGICAL or INSTINCTUAL.

These are things that have been instilled in them over thousands and millions of years of “conditioning” during mating and courtship rituals with women.

When a man is looking for a woman, a part of his instinctual “wiring” unconsciously tells him to look for a woman who is healthy and “fit.” (Not just physically, but emotionally.

This means men are biologically wired to look for, and feel “attracted” to women who have the qualities and traits that indicate a high level of health and “fitness.”

But unfortunately, this “screening process” that’s going on inside a man’s mind is largely UNCONSCIOUS. In other words, a man can’t and won’t just walk up to a woman and say:

“Hi, I’m looking for a mate. I’d like to know if you would make a good mate for me. Are you any of the following?

  • Emotional stable and secure in yourself so you’ll make a great partner for me and allow me to expand in my life instead of having to stay “small” to make sure you’re comfortable?
  • Physically fit and healthy so you can conceive a healthy child, give birth, and raise him/her?
  • “Genetically fit” so that you have a high likelihood to bear successful offspring by passing off great qualities like size, strength, intelligence, immunity, etc?
  • Intelligent, “funny,” and resourceful so that you can not only be a mate that makes me feel attracted to you and want to conceive lots of children… but also help in this world of hard-to-come-by resources?
  • Going to make a great mother who can care for our child and raise it while I’m out trying to “provide?:

Catch my drift?

This is part of the reason why so often a woman will ask a man why he’s feeling one way or another… or why he’s acting different or not interested in a relationship and he can’t explain it.

Too many women have found that men can often be careless and lazy in relationships.

WRONG.

This is absolutely not true if you trigger the right feelings in your boyfriend in your relationship. Some men feel so strongly that they’d do anything to protect her and their relationship. And I mean ANYTHING:

  • He’d risk heartbreak
  • He’d spend all his money if he had to
  • He’d travel around the world just to be with you for a night
  • He’d even risk physical harm or DEATH just to keep you safe and protected

A man can and will become DEEPLY COMMITTED to his girlfriend and their relationship… if he is feeling the right things with her. If he knows she’s worth it.

And therein lies the secret…

How do you make a man feel so in love and so deeply connected and committed to you that he’d do anything for you, and never think twice about leaving or giving up?

Learn How His Commitment Process Works

Women who don’t understand what the dating and COMMITMENT PROCESS is like inside a man’s mind seem to keep running into the same painful situations, frustrations, and traps with men.

The way a man grows close to a woman, the reasons why he chooses her over another woman, and when and why he decides to start sharing himself with her and growing a real and committed relationship is simply different than it is for most women.

My program From Casual to Committed explains the entire dating and “commitment process” of a man, and I delivered this program live to real women like you.

It was a huge success, and it felt great to know that I not only answered the tough questions women had and needed answered in the live event… but that they were able to take what they learned, apply it in their lives, and get REAL RESULTS with the man in their life:

Don’t Make This Common Commitment Mistake

One of the biggest “make it or break it” points for women in relationships with men is when you start to grow close and want to move from just a casual and unspoken thing into a deeper and more serious relationship.

If you’ve ever felt “stuck” in your love life because you didn’t know how to break through the “casual dating” stage with a man and move into a real and committed relationship, I can help.

If you know much about men, then you probably already know that the answer with a man in this situation is NOT to ask him for a commitment. Lots of women try this and become frustrated and baffled when the man they thought they were close to completely pulls away from them and even tries to end the relationship all together.

If you want to grow your relationship with a man, the best way to move into a committed relationship isn’t to come up against his “EMOTIONAL RESISTANCE” to commitment when you bring it up.

The best relationships that women enjoy most, and that last the longest, are the ones where THE MAN is leading the woman into a committed relationship.

Where HE is asking HER to COMMIT TO HIM.

For the greatest chance at happiness and success with a man, and to be able to quickly and easily move from a casual situation to a real and committed relationship with a man, the answer is to learn:

  1. How the commitment process works for him, and what each of the critical steps and experiences are that he needs to have before he’ll truly physically and emotionally commit
  2. How to make a man want to be with you and lead you in to a committed relationship
  3. How to keep your relationship growing and healthy so that you both stay emotionally involved and fulfilled by the relationship

If you really want love in your life, and you want it to LAST on your next go round… then don’t wait for your relationship to figure itself out.

Empower yourself. Don’t wait for a man to figure it out and make your relationship work for you. Don’t wait until you’re dating the right guy and in a great relationship to learn how to help it grow and make it work with him.

It’s time for you to feel what love is meant to feel like when you know how to get a man to help make it last with you. Get started today by checking out my From Casual Committed program here:








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